Issues

So, I’m sure those who have read through this blog have realized that I have not been happy with lil bit’s school.

Well… the you know what hit the fan at the end of last school year in may. I think that’s part of why I stopped updating. I still can’t really wrap my head around what happened.

This was at the end of the last school year.

So, Friday May 17th, I was supposed to volunteer in the Library all day. I brought Lil Bit to school only to find out that the librarian was sick, so I wasn’t going to be there. She was upset that I wouldn’t be having lunch with her, but went to class.

Around 1230 I got a call from the Principal that I had to come and bring her home.

When I arrived, I found out that from about 8am-10am she was in the Principal’s office, essentially pouting because she did not want to talk to the Principal. (Mind that I dropped her off around 745-750). After 2 hours, she finally she talked and returned to class.

Then, her class went out to play, but she had morning work to finish since she sat in the principals office for 2 hours doing nothing. Since she was the only one not playing she became upset. Her teacher told her to sit down and then she could play, but Lil Bit didn’t like that at all. She got more upset and pulled up grass and threw it before taking off at a run.

At this point they called the Principal who was at lunch. She told whoever it was to bring Lil Bit to the conference room and she would be there.

Now here is the kicker: They put a 6 year old child throwing a tantrum ALONE in their conference room. Can you guess what happened?

She continued throwing a tantrum- she ended up flipping a shelf on an empty book shelf and apparently ripping thread from two of the leather chairs that the principal said she had just spent hundred of dollars reupholstering.

The result of this was suspension Monday-Wednesday, making her miss the last week of school because of “destruction of school property”.

As we were leaving, I told the principal that I had paid money for Kona Ice for the school’s Fun Day. Before handing me the money, she showed it to Lil Bit and said “What was this money for?” Which she answered “Kona Ice”. The principal added on: “And now you won’t get any because of your behavior.”

To me it was like she was rubbing in the fact. Lil Bit had already been told that she would miss the chance at Fun Day and Kona Ice.

Honestly, I’m not that upset with my daughter. I am very upset with how the school handled this. They put Lil Bit, whose tantrums they are familiar with, in their conference room alone. I don’t care if it was 5 minutes. I don’t care if it was 20 seconds. I feel should not have been done.

They have dealt with her upsets through the year- which included pulling off and throwing shoes, pushing chairs, hiding under tables, and running away.

Don’t get me wrong, I in no way condone this behavior. And she knows better than to act in such a way at home.

I’m was at a loss. I’m not a confrontational person, but that day was just an avalanche of problems. Nothing sat well with me and the stress had me sick to my stomach. I didn’t know what to do. I’m still unsure if I am taking the right path in regards to this. I didn’t know what my options were.

Lil Bit had been sent home before, she had been sent to the Principal’s office before. They always react the same way- one would think that they realized that whatever they did wasn’t working, but they never changed. They never helped. Never even sent her to the school counselor. They just asked me what I did at home. But the way a child reacts to their parents is different from other authority figures, isn’t it?

Am I wrong? Am I overreacting? As a mom and a student of Early Childhood Education… I just don’t know.

Now with the new school year approaching I made a call to the School County offices. We have a Student Support Team meeting next Monday to see what can be done if the behavior continues. The meeting will have me, the County specialist who set the appointment up, school psychologist, the principal and her new teacher. She’ll have her eyes and hearing checked to be sure that is not the issue.

When I mentioned the above incident, the district specialist seemed surprised that nothing had been done before.

It’s not that I hadn’t thought about this, but I didn’t know how to go about it. I asked the school and one teacher told me it would take 6 months (the county told me it would take 60 days) and the school administration just looked at me like I had two heads.

I have noticed little actions that Lil Bit does that concern me, so I want to be sure that things will be handled appropriately. I am afraid of the behavior having a negative affect on her education as well as the education of her peers. I have high hopes for this meeting. I truly hope the school won’t let me down, or I’ll be forced to put her elsewhere. There is a fantastic charter school that i’m considering, but it is a 30 minute drive…

We’ll see.

Today is the first day of first grade, hopefully I’ll update tonight.

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1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. Kathy
    Aug 07, 2013 @ 22:08:05

    Wow!! I cannot believe that they left her alone in a room especially since she was visibly upset! It saddens me that she is going through this and I really hope that this new school year is an improvement from the last. I am happy that there is a team of specialists, including you, who are going to actively try and handle things differently. I hope for only good news in the future!! And give lil bit a BIG squeeze from me!!

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